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May 19 & 20, 2012
Definition of Vulnerability –
Liable to increased penalties, but entitled to increased bonuses
Three Fears that keep us from being vulnerable:
Fear of B_______________________ R_______________________
Meanwhile, Peter was in the courtyard below. One of the servant girls who worked for the high priest came by and noticed Peter warming himself at the fire. She looked at him closely and said, “You were one of those with Jesus of Nazareth.” But Peter denied it. “I don’t know what you’re talking about,” he said, and he went out into the entryway. Just then, a rooster crowed.[b] When the servant girl saw him standing there, she began telling the others, “This man is definitely one of them!” But Peter denied it again. A little later some of the other bystanders confronted Peter and said, “You must be one of them, because you are a Galilean.” Peter swore, “A curse on me if I’m lying—I don’t know this man you’re talking about!” MARK 14: 66-71
A. ENTER THE DANGER
B. SPEAK THE KIND TRUTH
C. DON’T BE AFRAID TO BE REJECTED
2. Fear of B_______________________ E_______________________
A. CELEBRATE OUR MISTAKES
3. Fear of F_______________________ I_______________________
When Jesus came to Simon Peter, Peter said to him, “Lord, are you going to wash my feet?” JOHN 13: 4-6
A. DO THE DIRTY WORK – Show people you are willing to do what you are asking of them.
B. BE GENUINELY INTERESTED AND HONOR OTHERS WORK
Vulnerability breeds trust, loyalty, commitment, and can be very powerful. Even though it is attractive, our culture has instilled in us to avoid suffering and pain at all costs. We as Christ followers, are called to be vulnerable by Jesus Christ, the most humble and vulnerable leader of all time. He was seated comfortably in heaven at the right hand of the father, but came to Earth as a servant to show his unconditional love for us. The example has been set to willingly be rejected and speak the kind truth in spreading the Gospel. Now, it’s our role to carry out the Great Commission, as vulnerable servants, we will truly be rewarded for answering the call. Matthew 5:12 says, “Be happy about! Be very glad! For a great reward awaits you in heaven. And remember, the ancient prophets were persecuted in the same way.”
1. Patrick Lencioni describes vulnerability as an attractive and powerful attribute. Have you ever viewed vulnerability as an attractive attribute in your life?
2. Lencioni said that despite the power of vulnerability, many of us do not embrace being vulnerable.
A. Where on the continuum below would you place your own willingness to be vulnerable?
Rarely Willing? Cautiously Willing? Totally Willing?
B. Depending on your level of vulnerability, you might not be comfortable sharing your rating with others. Take a step toward increased vulnerability by talking about where you marked yourself with a group of friends that you trust and share why you placed yourself where you did.
3. Three fears that keep us from being vulnerable are fear of being rejected, fear of being embarrassed, and fear of feeling inferior. Rate how much you struggle with each fear in the scale below.
Fear of REJECTION – Rarely, Sometimes, Really
Fear of being EMBARRASSED – Rarely, Sometimes, Really
Fear of being INFERIOR – Rarely, Sometimes, Really
Take on a challenge and risk vulnerability by sharing the above results with your group.
4. Think of a mistake you have made that you’ve never told anyone about. Discuss what the result might be if you shared that story? Write out your thoughts and if you feel comfortable, share it with a group.
5. Do you have a fear of speaking the truth to someone because you think you might offend them? Describe a time where you spoke up and told the truth and risked vulnerability.
6. Do you lead an organization, team, group, or are you a coach, parent or mentor? If so, you likely are asking people to do things to challenge themselves and do a lot of “dirty work.” How often do you lead by example by showing that you are just as willing to do the things you are asking them to do?