If You Know, You Know! – Better in Bed

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Knowing God and understanding how he knows us leads to us being better in bed. For many, this probably seems like a strange thought. What does your sex life have to do with God and your relationship with him?

It starts with understanding the answer to this question: “How does God know us?”

Lead Pastor Ben Snyder shared this weekend that God knows us graciously. Grace is a gift. God shares his love and mercy with us even though we don’t deserve it. And because we can’t earn it, we can’t demand it. Instead, we must learn to receive his love and goodness as he graciously offers it to us. When we take a posture of receiving his grace, our relationship with him grows tremendously.

When we understand grace, we understand we don’t have to pretend to be something we are not. We can be ourselves. We can be ourselves at work, at home, with our friends, and with our spouse in the bedroom.

We don’t have to pretend to have it all together or to have it all figured out. We don’t have to hide our flaws and insecurities.

Being your authentic self is so important in your relationships because the real you cannot receive the love given to the person you pretend to be. When you learn to trust God and others with who you really are, the real you is open to receiving love.

I believe this is what leads us to Ben’s bottom line: “If you KNOW, you KNOW.” Knowing and understanding God’s grace makes you better in bed because grace is about receiving what you do not deserve—and it’s about giving what they do not deserve. It is about knowing each other deeply, and not having to be ashamed.

Sex is one of the ways we experience and participate in the grace of God. As we receive God’s grace in our lives, we can then offer it to our spouse and receive it from our spouse in every place in our lives, including in bed.

Romans 3:24
Yet God, in his grace, freely makes us right in his sight. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins.

Romans 8:1-2      
1 So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. 2 And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death.

Ephesians 2:8-9
8 God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. 9 Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.

How am I growing in the area of knowing and trusting God?

How can my understanding of God’s love and grace make me better in bed?

How am I showing grace to my spouse in bed?

Next Steps:
Checkout these studies on Grace from RightNow Media.

  1. Two Roads – By Robby Angle of Trueface
  2. Amazing Grace – by Francis Chan

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Dear God, thank you for your grace. Because of your unconditional love for me, I can begin to love others the way you love me. Help me to receive your grace and to share it with others in my life. And as I do, please bless my relationships and bring them to a place of authentic love and trust. In Jesus’ name, I pray, amen.

This post was written by Ben Bockert. Ben is a proud husband and father of three beautiful daughters. He is honored to serve as the Director of the LivingItOut Bible Study.

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