All through elementary, I dreaded the moment my teacher announced a group project. I know that some people live and breathe for group activities, but not me. From reading with a partner, to making a model with a team, to tidying up a room with someone else, I dreaded collaboration with my classmates and peers. It was much easier (and faster) for me to work on my own. I wouldn’t have to work slowly, or ask someone’s opinion about my obviously better idea. When given the option, I never hesitated to work on my own.
There is no problem with wanting to work by ourselves, but there is a big difference between wanting to work on our own and trying to live on our own.
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
God provided the first man, Adam, with a wife—a helper God created to be just right for Adam. This is what God intended from the very beginning. God’s design was for a man and woman, intended for each other, to live life together, in connection with their Creator.
But when Adam and Eve sinned, they broke their trust with God. It not only caused humans to try to live apart from God but also from other humans as well. We tend to hide our guilty and hurting past from anyone who wants to help. But God wants us to find freedom, both in him and with the people in our lives, especially the person we marry.
Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.
It is okay to prefer working on your own, but it is not part of God’s plan for you to live on your own. His plan is good, perfect, and just right for all who follow him. Live the way God has planned, with the helper he intended.
Are there any areas of your life where you are trying to go alone when it might actually be better to ask for help?
Are the people surrounding you life-giving? Do they help you to live the way God intended?
Is there anything you need to confess to someone, whether it is guilt or hurt? Is there anyone you can listen to this week?
Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 and other Bible verses about the value of friendship and marriage. Spend time listening to others, including your spouse. Take the time to not only hear their words but pray over them as they speak.
God also wants us to connect with others outside of marriage. If you haven’t done so already, join a Group! The semester has just started, so it’s the perfect time to start finding freedom with others.
Father God, you have the most incredible plan for my life. Help me to live the way you intended, in connection with you, my spouse, and other people. Your plan is just right for me! I can never stop thanking you. In Jesus’ name, amen.
This post was written by Lydia Snyder. Lydia has been a story-lover for as long as she can remember, often found reading books or writing. She is thrilled to be making a difference by inspiring others to take part in the best story ever – God’s story. Lydia lives with her three wonderful siblings and two amazing parents.
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