One of the pivotal scenes from last weekend’s featured movie, Black Widow, took place around the dinner table. After years apart, the “family” was back together, and their conversation was eye opening.
The last time this family had seen each other, the evil Drakov had separated them against their will. This abrupt end to the world they knew caused pain and heartache for each one of the characters. In the years between their family being torn apart and this reunion, they had each tried to understand why things had happened the way they did by forming a story from their own point of view. As they tried to make sense of it all, blame became a central theme in each character’s mind.
In Pastor Ben’s talk, he pointed out that it was clear from their conversation that each of their perceived views of the past had defined and shaped the state of their heart and their views of each other in the present. As I thought about this point from Ben, it reminded me of the bottom line from a past series.
In week 1 of our series, How to Not Hate a Jerkface, Ben taught us that while our perspective might be right, it is not always complete.
In this case, each character had a perspective of what had happened years ago and a perspective of what had happened in the years between, but they only had their own perspective. Once they settled down and took the time to talk to each other, it became clear that each of them held a perspective that wasn’t complete. As they listened to each other’s stories and connected with each other’s hearts, they began to find understanding and healing.
What a great lesson for us to learn from. When we are hurt by someone, or when a relationship we value is broken, there may be more to the story than we see. But if we humble ourselves, if we are patient and compassionately listen to one another, we may gain a more complete perspective. This helps us to see what is real, what is not, and what really matters—and allows us to move toward forgiveness.
Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.
Can you remember a time when you thought your perspective was right and complete but later discovered you were missing something?
What tension point(s) in your life do you need to spend time on this week in order to get a better perspective?
Listen to Ben’s talk on perspective from the How to Not Hate a Jerkface series.
Dear God, I recognize that my perspective isn’t always complete. Forgive me for the times that I place blame or try to hurt others based on my incomplete view of the circumstances around me. Help me to be patient, open to learning, and forgiving in all of my relationships. Help me to love others the way you love me. In Jesus’ name, amen.
This post was written by Ben Bockert. Ben is a proud husband and father of three beautiful daughters. He is honored to serve as the Director of the LivingItOut Bible Study.
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